Men who should consider taking their wives surname: A comprehensive guide

So in the past few weeks we learnt that Zoe Saldana's husband Marco Perego decided to adopt his wife's surname, throwing out tradition of thousands of years. It has sparked a debates on TV and radio shows everywhere. According to Marco Saldana, he explains that women take their husbands surname everyday and it doesn't make the news. When Zoe tried to talk him out of it he added  'I don’t give a shhheeeetttt!!' Why not? What are you so afraid of?'. Really what are we so afraid of breaking tradition? What the press don't talk about so much is that Zoe also took Marco's surname, she is now Zoe Perego and he is Marco Saldana. Does that now sound better to you guys? I started thinking about it, talking to guys about it. Most of them dismissed the idea of taking their wife's surname without knowing exactly why. Some explained that it is emasculating, others explained that they will be mocked by their friends while the Naija men I know gave me the dirtiest of looks before adding a resounding    I am still yet to hear a good reason from the lads why this is such a taboo.  Some very famous people now hyphenate their surnames which kind of brings this whole tradition to the 21st century.     Jay-z famously changed his name to Sean Knowles-Carter after he and Bey tied the knot. Well who wouldn't, if I got married to Beyoncé everyone in my nuclear and extended family will add Beyoncé to all their legal documents by faya and by force, you best beh-lee that.     The Jolie-Pitts are also leading the way, combining their surnames after marriage. Why are more people not taking this step at least. But wait oh,  Blue-Ivy knowles-Carter gets married to Pax Jolie-Pitt she will now become Blue-Ivy Knowles-Carter-Jolie-Pitt? (Are we seeing complications in this already?).  Anyways, I heard a few men on radio giving the reasons why they have gone down that route of taking their wife's surname. The most common one was that they didn't like their surname in the first place. When your surname is Ramsbottom or Hiscox or Pratt then change of name is almost expected of you, why not to your wife's soft name like Cottage or Humphreys. Other men unselfishly decided to take their  wife's surname on because she is from a house of daughters and someone needs to continue with the name. Warning to all reading, THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN IN AFRICA, NOT NOW, NOT EVER. (Forever ever? Forever ever!) So I continued thinking (impressive isn't it? ) of very exceptional cases in which it will be in a man best interest to take your wife's surname.  1. Your wife's name is Dangote or Gates or Murdoch. Don't think twice, change that surname.  2. If you are above 25 years of age and you have a Mohawk , you expect someone to take your surname? Please leave that your surname on the table and walk the other way.  3. If you have cornrows, you want to marry? Please just wear a pinafore, knee high socks and cortina, you are a primary school girl, surrender your surname immediately 4. You play x-box from morning to night while your wife goes to work, surname transplant for your ass.  5. You sag your jeans and wear your hat backwards. Need I say more?  I personally believe hyphenating surnames is a good and progressive way to an equal union. Let's start there and maybe evolve in the future. I am interested in hearing what men have to say about this. Please comment below and please don't throw shoes at me, I have odeshi.    

My first rule of clothes shopping

If I cannot wear you to work, I ain't buying you. The end.  We all work five days a week, 52 weeks and 365 days a year (or is that just me). Sometimes I find myself working 14 days straight with my regular 9-5 and then photography at the weekends. So, I work so much, the hustle is very real (currently on the train where I put my phone down just to do the Jay-z hova gang sign, don't judge me woman with the pink fur in summer).  So in that light, when I go shopping, there is absolutely no need to buy anything I cannot wear to work, be it my government work or my own business. I buy pretty things that I can dress down one day but definitely dress up to go to parties (children's birthday parties and Christenings it seems to always be). So that is rule number "wan".  How does she dress things up I hear you say. Simply with your shoes, bags and accessories. You won't believe how good that "dead dress" will look when you spruce it up a little bit. I tell myself I will never wear it same way I wear it to work so for a dress I will usually add a statement belt and then knock my heels. For a pencil skirt that I usually wear with an oxford shirt to work, I swap the shirt for a cami or embellished top. That is rule number two: Never wear stuff same way you will wear it it work (before the dress takes you to the office on a Sunday morning, you won't know).  This look I am about the show you was an outfit I wore to my God daughters christening, a lovely addition of God kids that I am currently guiding with my infinite wisdom and understanding (if you like roll your eyes, I can't see from here). Please you guys check out my blogger poses, especially the ones that I look far away to the horizon lol. If you have learnt anything from my deep deep understanding of fashion rules, please comment and I will send you a copy of my e-book "Style tips for ex-fashion convicts", we don't judge, we are here to help. Lol                         These are some of my must haves for a chic work wardrobe.  As for blazers, the collarless classic white blazer is always a winner, it will go with anything and paired with a white high waisted jeans and heels, boom you are ready to partay. I also love these cape blazers and can't get enough of them, the more structured the better.     When we talk about tops/ blouses, I quite like the wrap stripped shirt. It can be paired with any of the above blazers and for a party look with high waisted trousers and a statement belt. Tah-dah. An embellished top is also a must have.    These paper bag trousers (muahhh... Come to mama soon ok?) and the pink ankle grazers I love. Don't be afraid of colour guys, rock it.     Last but not the least (I never understood that phrase by the way) but here we go. Skirts, my absolute fav. A stripe and flowery pencil skirt is all you need I promise you. They are heaven sent. The horizontal striped skirt seemed more chic to me than the vertical.     That's all folks, until next week when you all see me on the cover of Forbes  magazine standing next to Oprah and the Queen. 

So “diet season” is in full swing , what’s your move?

"Are you on a diet?" is one of the most popular phrases in the English language. You look on social media and someone somewhere is trying to sell you a diet and workout plan. I open my Instagram and all the before and after photos make me want to jump on a treadmill immediately. This post is about diets I have tried, what has worked and what was a complete waste of money and effort.  There are so many diets out there it's unbelievable. I feel like I can make one up today "The see me I see you diet", as long as I have before and after photos and at least one follower (usually my sister) then I am in business.   My cousin swears by the cabbage soup diet where you eat just cabbage soup with carrots three times a day, if by cabbage you mean rice and by carrots you mean chicken then I am in ( but I think cabbage means cabbage, so I'll pass). Beyoncé made the syrup and lemon diet famous after admitting she does that before the red carpet. Just Syrup and lemon for 2 weeks 😳.  Ok Bey please don't come and rub me with your village problems  thank you very much.    The  Baby food diet (no comment ), juicing diet (I am hungry jor), paleo diet (if the title doesn't reflect what the diet entails then pls jog on), sailors diet (is this like fresh fish peppersoup diet?), raw food diet.. These are just a few famous ones that feel like they are out to end peoples lives.  The diets I have tried personally and can comment on are below.  Atkins diet  We all remember this one right? My mum bought the book around 2001/2002. I began to study it just out of curiosity because I didn't have a weight problem. Fast forward years later all my studying came to good use. I started doing a low carb Atkinish diet (I wasn't going to let jellof rice pass me by, Atkins kor Atkins ni). Let's just say that phase didn't last long, no bread, no rice, no pasta, no carbs at all? Who did this man think he was? Mshewww. I was even angry at myself for trying. On to the next jor. (You see how it brings back angry memories)  Forever living Cleanse 9    Next one forever living cleanse 9 diet or detox or whatever they are calling it now. First of all it is not realistic to loose the amount they claim in 9 days. But being one that was addicted to diets I said "yes please, take my money and don't say a word". Day 1 I was so gingered, I breezed past it. Day 2 My senses were so sharp,  I noticed I could smell unopened crisps from shops half a mile away, ah ah warris it, I was HUNGRY. Day 3 I gave up. The end. Weight loss zero kg and 3 vile Jerrycans  of Aloe Vera sitting by my bedside giving me dirty looks every night at bedtime (na you know....gheez) 5:2 diet    By this time you will think ok diets have kicked  her to the ground and stomped on her head too many times for her to fall for another one naw. NEVER! I am not a quitter. So I decided to buy the 5:2 fast diet book, I thought what's the worse that can happen. The 5:2 diet appealed to me because you can eat normally on five days and do a 600 calorie day on two days. I thought 5 days of Big Jellof rice and two days of small jellof rice, bring it on. This was a more realistic diet because you can do this long term and not miss or crave things. I managed to do it for a couple of weeks and I must admit I lost a little bit of weight. It was great while it lasted but the results were not fast enough for me. I wanted hard and fast results, I wanted my own before and after, I wanted abs that would set off metal detectors and fire alarms all round the country (is that not what we all want from diets?) so I moved on, nothing to see here pipo.  1200-a-day So I went back to the good ole 1200 calories a day boring diet that when  You start to tell someone about it they fall into a deep deep sleep that even a true loves kiss cannot even begin to resuscitate. To be honest this is what worked for me. There is a very simple formula to weigh loss Calories consumed should be less than Calories burned S H I K E N A. eat less and exercise more. Say it with me "eat less, exercise more". I eat 1200 calories on my day off from the gym and on gym days I can eat between 1500 and 1800 calories and go hard at the gym. I don't deprive myself of stuff. I will still have ice cream and popcorn once a week at the cinema and kinda have all my bad things on one day of the week. It works but it is not a fast method of losing weight, it's gradual and if consistent you will see results.  In my opinion diets don't work, you have to change something forever, either portions or completely cut out the biggest hitters. It has to be a permanent long term change. Learn how to eat and change bad habits, once you do that you are most of the way there really. Change something today and stop making diet sellers rich.  Ps. To purchase my "See me, I see you diet" send me a bank transfer of just £199. For the more extreme "silent crase" diet make that £399. Ok bye *off to go and price land in Lekki*  Wisdom of the day    

Every lady needs one of these in her wardrobe…

The classic blue oxford shirt. It is seasonless, classic and a good shirt will last you years. You can wear it in the summer and layer it in the winter. This is just a casual outfit I wore to a photoshoot I did on Sunday. Oh loving my white mules too.                 Some of my favourite shirts on the high street are from H&M, River Island and asos below. I really like the long line H&M shirt. I wish I could own them all          I have also seen a trend in blue shirt dresses although they are not as versatile as the oxford shirt but a real good buy if you live in a hot climate (rolls eyes *beef*).          Have a look at how some of our favourite celebs wore it and how you can pair this shirt with a skirt, white, red or yellow jeans. Red is my favourite for a nautical look                  Nuff said, get your oxford shirt and enjoy for years to come. Thank me later. 😂

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